All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, who are at ease everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it.
ACTION CURES FEAR-
Action cures fear, whereas indecision, postponement, on the other hand fertilizes fear. When we are afraid of doing anything like talking to people, answering, doing a new job, taking risk, the best way to overcome fright is start doing the job. Ex. you are afraid of giving interviews, just give 2-3 interviews you will be relaxed and overcome fright.
DEPOSIT ONLY POSITIVE THOUGHTS IN YOUR MEMORY-
Lets face it squarely, everyone encounters plenty of unpleasant, embarrassing and discouraging situations. But successful and unsuccessful people deal with them in directly opposite ways. Unsuccessful people take them to heart. They dwell on the unpleasant situations, thereby giving them a good start in there memory. They don’t take their mind away from them. At night the unpleasant situation is the last thing they think about.
Confident successful on the other hand “don’t give it another thought” successful people specialize in putting positive thoughts into their memory bank.
What kind of performance would your car deliver if every morning before you left for work you scooped up a double handful of dirt and put it into your crankshaft? What will the result of the car be?
Negative thought produce needless wear and fear on your mental motor. They create worry frustration and feeling of inferiority. They put you beside the road while others move ahead.
Here is an excellent plan-just before you go to sleep deposit good positive thoughts in your memory bank. Count your blessings, Recall the many good things you have to be thankful for, Your good parents, money, friends, good health etc. Recall your victories and accomplishments. Withdraw only positive thoughts from your memory bank. Simply destroy the negative thoughts, before those thoughts become mental monsters. A person can make a mental monster out of almost anything, a failure to answer in exam, a bad performance in an exam, a fight with a friend, death of a loved one.
Don’t build mental monsters. Refuse to withdraw the unpleasant thoughts from your memory bank- When you remember situations of any kind, concentrate on the good part of the experience. Forget the bad, bury it. If you find yourself thinking about the negative side, turn your mind completely off.
YOUR MIND WANTS TO FORGET THE UNPLEASANT-
If you will just co-operate unpleasant memories will gradually shrivel and later on your memory bank cancels them out.
In brief it really is easy to forget the unpleasant if we simply refuse to recall it.
Withdraw only positive thoughts from your memory bank, let the others fade out. You conquer your fear when you refuse to remember negative depreciating thoughts.
HOW TO AVOID FEAR OF DEALING WITH PEOPLE-
- Get a balanced view of the other fellow, you are important too.
- Develop an understanding attitude. There are people who fight, growl at you, forgive and forget them.
- Keep your conscience clean-when you do some thing wrong, your conscience eats away your confidence, secondly people sooner or later find out and loose confidence in us. Do what is right and keep your confidence.
- To think confidently act confidently- People who appear so confident outwardly are also nervous inside. To act confidently-walk straight, smile, don’t frown. So to think confidently act confidently. Act the way you want to feel.
BELOW ARE FIVE CONFIDENCE BUILDING EXERCISES-
- Be a front seater- Most folks scramble to sit in the back rows so they don’t be “too conspicuous”. And the reason they are afraid to sit in the front is that they lack confidence. Sitting in front build confidence.
Practice making eye contact- Usually, failure to make eye contact tells us about a person. It may say “I feel weak beside you”. “I feel inferior to you”. “I am afraid of you”. “I feel guilty”. Looking in the other person in the eye tells him, “I am honest”. “I believe in what i am telling you. I am not afraid I am confident”.- Walk 25 percent faster- People who have a dropping posture, sluggish walking shows unpleasant attitude towards oneself. Body action is the result of mind action. Average people have “average walk”. People with confidence walk faster. They have a spirit in the way they walk. Use the 25% faster walking technique. Throw your shoulders back, lift up your head, move faster and feel confident.
- Practice speaking up- The more you speak up, the more you add to your confidence, and the easier it is to speak up the next time. Speak up. It’s a confidence building vitamin.
- Smile Big- Smile is excellent medicine for confidence deficiency. A big smile beats fear, rolls away worry, defeats despondency. Smile melts opposition. A person can not be angry with you if you give him a big smile. Smile big and you feel like –
“HAPPY DAYS ARE HERE AGAIN”.
सत्संग से सोच बेहतर हुई, उददेश्य समझने मे मदद्व हुई व आत्मविश्वास बढा। उपर दिये दिशा ज्ञान के लिए, गुरु भगवान एक बार फिर से शुक्राने
राधे राधे सुप्रभातं नमस्कार
Radhey Radhey Bhagwanji. Shukrane Bhagwanji for sharing such a wonderful article, which very necessary for us as our negitive thoughts dominate us and do not let us go forward. The confident exercises are very good. Especially to smile, we forgot to smile. Bhagwanji it’s because of you we started living our life. There are no words to express thankfulness. I bow to your lotus feet . Aap k Anantt koti Shukrane hai Prabhuji ?
5 confidence building exercise are very good
Thankyou bhagwanji
आत्मविश्वास बढ़ाने और आत्मविश्वास को ऊंचा रखने के लिए इन सटीक बिंदुओं को साझा करने के लिए आपका बहुत-बहुत धन्यवाद।
Very practical and useful tips to overcome our fear and enhance positivity and confidence.
Many thanks to Guru bhagwan evam Guru maa ji for supporting us in evry manner.
Shukrane Bhagwan ji for sharing such an article on life changing patterns to have a fearless and confident life.
Radhey Radhey Guru Bhagwan ji and Guru maa..thanks for sharing this positive and motivational article. ??
From the core of my heart I thank my Mentor for working so hard in building our inner confidence by making us recognize our fears which were compressed inside us.Only and only a true Mentor in life can train us to not build mental monsters who keep haunting us again and again in life.Today all confidence,smile,relaxed attitude and many more lovely positive gifts have all been given by my divine Mentor.I bow my head and Thank them praying I always follow their footsteps .??
Millions of thanks to our guru bhagwan ji and guru maa ji.
We our very confident because we have you as our satguru in our life. We are very blessed.
Will try to boost up our confidence by applying these amazing tips in our life.
A lot of thanks……
Many many thanks to Guru bhagwanji for such an motivational article. So well described the five ways which can help us to build our personality .
गुरु भगवान हमारे गुरु भगवान जी करोड़ों शुक्राने है इस सुंदर artciles के लिए।
कितनी सुंदर युक्तियां बतलाई है कि भय से कैसे मुक्त रहा जाए और आत्म विश्वास कैसे बढ़ाया जाए
जैसे डिपॉज़िट ऑफ़ ओनली पॉजिटिव थॉट इन मेमोरी , बुरी यादों वा पलो को भूलना, आत्म विश्वास बढ़ाने वाले व्यायाम,आदि।
आपके प्रेम के अनन्त अनन्त शुक्राने है।
Very motivational article Bhagwan ji.
“easy to forget the unpleasant if we simply refuse to recall it.”
Yes Bhagwan ji when we recall unpleasant situation it become monestor.
Millions of thanks to you Guru Bhagwan ji to wash dirt of our mind again and agin.
Millions of Thanks to our mentor?
Such a beautiful article.
Only guru bhagwanji makess us fearless
Very practical tips to overcome fear and become confident. Pointwise explaination with attractive images is very motivating. Thank you very much.
Guru Bhagwan ke anant shukrane hai. This is much needed article in present time. This article will help us to get positive thoughts and mind. Shukrane Bhagwan ji ? ? ? ? ?
Guru bhagwan ji k anant shukrane hain aapki kripa se hi negitive thoughts dafan hote hain or kbhi repeat bhi hone lage to aap sambhal lete hain jaise abhi 2 din pehle achanak past mai hua negetive jo aapki kripa se bhula hua fir kisi baat phone par repeat hote hi phone disconnect ho gaya itna shukrane nikle bhagwan ji aapke ki laga aap nhi chahte ki unhi negetive thouths se hum mile.
Aapke prem ko naman hai harpal hamari sambhal karte hain ?
A very inspiring article… Especially that positive vibes and thoughts should be withdrawn from our inner bank. The confidence exercises are very good.
Many many thanks to our Divine Mentor.
Gurubhagwanji k Shukrane h for such a helpful article will definitely try to use these points in day to day situations
Radhye Radhye my revered Guru Maa and Guru Bhagwanji.
From my botam of heart lot of worship at your divine feet.
Really such a beautiful artical Bhagwanji, very true There are only Guru Bhagwanji who make us fearless from both inside and outside.
And with his positive armor, he has managed in our world.
Millions of thanks my Bhagwanji.
नमन नमन नमन
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Very practical and crisp. Many many thanks for the information. It’s really useful and can be applied to overcome the fear. Anant Anant Shukrane..
Shukrane Guru bhagwanji aap ke shree charno m koti koti pranam h
Very gud nd informative article.. shukarne guru bhagwanji ??
This article is very enlightening, one of the best points that I felt is that successful people and unsuccessful people take hate comments and discouraging situations differently, both of then have a different perspective to it, successful people find a way to grow through such situations whereas unsuccessful people just go through it.
Another point that I really liked is that smile melts opposition.
Thank you very much for this beautiful article.??
Thank you Gurubhagwanji, for sharing these five points on how to overcome fear. I really like this point that confidence is not a quality that someone has by birth but a quality that can be developed during life span.